Valentine’s Day, huh? Well, I’m not a huge fan of the holiday. My socialist leanings tell me it’s a manufactured holiday meant to increase wanton consumerism after the feeding frenzy of Christmas has died down.
However, I do think it can be a good time to check in with those you love to remind them of ways that you love them. As we all know, one fantastic way that people in romantic relationships can show love is through sex!
In my experience (with evidence to support it), nothing makes for better sex than open, honest communication. I’ve talked about it as I detailed my views on sex, and I’ve stressed the importance of consent.
However, one thing I’ve learned is that it is not always easy to start such an open, accountable, honest conversation. Then, thanks to The Consensual Project, I discovered Yes, No, Maybe Charts! Essentially, a Yes, No, Maybe Chart is a list of sex acts and topics related to sex with a space for you to express your comfort level with a simple Yes, No, or Maybe. Yes, No, Maybe charts are a great way for you to check in with yourself about your wants, needs, desires, and comfort levels in various sex acts and things related to sex, and when done with a partner, they are a great way to start a conversation about what your sexual relationship can, does, and should look like!