2012 was a big year of blogging for me. I branched out in my publishing by partnering with a few amazing blogs, and my readership has grown tremendously. In 2012, Change From Within had approximately 59,000 page views, and the blog had 59 new posts, some short and (hopefully) pithy, and some long and more complex.
There were a few posts from years past that continue to garner huge views on the blog. In case you missed those, check them out!
As we head into 2013, though, it’s time to take stock of the 10 most widely-read pieces of 2012 in case you missed any the first time around.
10. In October, I had the incredible pleasure of serving as the officiant of my close friend’s wedding. After the wedding, I posted the message I shared at the wedding. Coming in at number 10 is that message, Love: Endlessly Selfless and Powerfully Selfish.
9. Unfortunately, my former home of Denver, CO has a serious problem with police brutality. In July, I attended a rally against police brutality that commemorated the death of Alonzo Ashley, a young Black man who was killed by police at the Denver Zoo. The piece that came afterward encouraged White people to begin to consider the ways that our relationships with police (on the whole) are vastly different from the relationships of communities of Color. Coming in at number 9 is Talking Privilege: Waking White People Up to Police Brutality.
8. One of the more important stories of 2012 was the tragic murder of Trayvon Martin at the hands of George Zimmerman. In my piece entitled I am George Zimmerman, I encouraged White folks to understand the ways that everyone who is socialized in our system of White Supremacy is taught to see Black men of any age as the dangerous other. If we want to prevent future murders like that of Trayvon Martin (or Jordan Russell Davis), we have to understand the ways that each of us are trained to fear Black men, and then we must work to uproot that socialization.
7. Sometimes I just have to rant a little, which is what the piece that comes in at number 7 felt like. After their CEO spouted virulently anti-gay hate speech, activists targeted Chick-fil-a for boycotts and protests. Those on the right claimed that such activists were attacking his freedom of speech. In Chick-fil-a: Censorship or Freedom of Speech?, I lay out just how silly that argument actually is.
6. One of the best ways to share intimacy with your partner, whether this is a long-time partner or a short-term hook up, is to take steps to ensure that your sexual relationship is healthy and driven by sexy consent. One way to do that is through a Yes, No, Maybe Chart. My Valentines’s piece laid out just how to use one to ensure your sex is healthy, fun, and fulfilling. Coming in at number 6 is, This Valentine’s Day Try a Yes, No, Maybe Chart.
5. I get really tired of the conversation with White folks about why they can’t use the N-Word when Black people can, so I can’t imagine how Black people feel about this “injustice.” Just the other day I tried to explain to a White woman why it is absurd to hope that one day her White son would be able to use that word with his Black friends. In that argument, I brought up the piece that comes in at number 5: 4 Reasons White People Can’t Use the N-Word (No Matter What Black Folks are Doing).
4. At the beginning of March, the internet was abuzz. All anyone could talk about was some dude named Joseph Kony who was stealing children in “Africa” and using them as child soldiers. A lot of self-righteous White people got pretty excited about stopping Kony, so they liked a status. They even slapped a sticker on a stop sign and bought a new t-shirt. My response to the Kony 2012 phenomenon? Kony 2012 and the White Savior Complex.
3. I was SO INCREDIBLY EXCITED about the first Pixar film with a female protagonist. What I found when I saw the film, though, was a boring, safe film that was FAR from feminist. Coming in at number 3 is Pixar’s Brave: A Not-So-Brave Attempt at Feminist Film.
2. Perhaps the only conversation with White folks that drives me MORE crazy than the one about the N-Word is the one about affirmative action. “It discriminates against White people.” “I won’t even be able to get into college or get a scholarship because of all of the affirmative action for ‘minorities.'” After banging my head against the wall in the conversation over and over (again, people of Color, how do you even begin to deal with this business?), I decided to write out a defense of affirmative action that proves, once and for all, that White folks are NOT being disadvantaged by such policies. Now I can just link people to the post! And it’s getting a lot of google traffic these days. The second most viewed piece of 2012 is, Are White Students Being Disadvantaged by Affirmative Action
1. I wasn’t the first to say it, and I surely haven’t been the last, but I am proud to be one of the voices finally asking what about White Masculinity is causing middle-to-upperclass White men to commit mass murders. Garnering more than 3000 views in its first two days of publication, the single most-viewed piece of 2012 was, The Aurora Shootings: What’s Wrong with White Men? The post even got a shout out in Hugo Schwyzer’s piece on Role/Reboot. Sadly, the post had two big spikes in viewership this year, one when it was written after the mass shooting in Aurora, CO and one after the mass shooting at a school in Newtown, CT.
Thank you to all of my readers who have supported Change From Within over the last year, and I look forward to your support in the next year of blogging!